The Shabbat bar/bat mitzvah “service” is a public celebration that follows a year-long intensive course of study. At the service you will demonstrate your knowledge by chanting from the Torah scroll, reciting a Haftarah, leading prayers, and speaking publicly about what you’ve learned from your Jewish studies. In your own words, you will share with your family, friends, synagogue and wider community the reasons you decided to become a bar/bat mitzvah and what it means to be a young Jewish adult. Your decision to enter this bar/bat mitzvah program and your commitment to take this year of study seriously, are a sign of your new level of ethical and spiritual maturity.
This is an important time of transition for families as you reach your collective coming of age. For those families with only one Jewish parent—this may be an entry into Judaism unlike any you have undergone thus far. Hence, it is important that parents engage in the learning process along with your student. Every bar/bat mitzvah family with whom I have ever worked has said without a doubt that this is a year of transformation. Fortunately you are not alone. Our congregation is filled with supportive families who have been through the process and are here to remind you that the growing pains also bring joy!
This handbook outlines the program’s timeline, goals, curriculum, expectations, responsibilities and requirements—even as we continue with our own process of change and improvement. Within it you will find worksheets to fill out the names of honorees at the service and pages to copy for guests who will be making blessings at the Torah. You will also find answers to some FAQ’s about the inclusion of Jewish and non-Jewish family members, how to make a formal community announcement, creating the service program, and what foods are appropriate for a synagogue oneg/kiddush (post-service reception).
While we have tried to anticipate and your questions in advance, we are sure there will be more. So please do not hesitate to call or email me, Cantor Ellen, Shelley or the office staff. We are here and ready to help.
And once again, Mazal Tov!
Rabbi Rosalind Glazer